Ceilede (silent_selkie) wrote,
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Happiness Surprises People

One of the most important things my mom ever taught me was well after I'd moved out and we were talking on the phone. She mentioned something about how she'd been smiling to herself that day and how people reacted to her mood with odd looks. She thought it was strange that people would be turned off by other people expressing their joy by smiling. This was an important lesson for me. I've noticed it too. Happiness seems to confound some people. I'll be smiling about something and people will ask me "What are you up to? What's there to be so happy about? Are you always this happy?" as if it were a novelty. I've also noticed that smiling draws people to you, especially if you are alone. Other people want to know what your source of joy is and want to connect to it because maybe its rare nowadays.

I was thinking today also...I really didn't understand the happiness I saw other people expressing towards each other until I met my husband. I truly didn't. A friend recently suggested that no one in love is truly happy and that if married, we definitely weren't happy. I was nearly offended by that accusation. I'm definitely happy now. I feel bad that my friend has become so bitter and jaded that he believes people who are truly happy with each other are deluding themselves. I have my ups and downs, personally; but when I'm with Brian, I'm very happy. He makes me feel secure and confident and comfortable in ways I never was before.

I know there are a lot of people out there who don't believe in love or happiness, or don't think they are real or attainable, who think love and happiness are stupid and resent others who express their emotions. I know because I used to feel that way. I used to look down on happy lovers. If I'm hokey or deluding myself, then so be it, because I feel great. I'm alive now. I can manage. I can attain. I've surprised myself with my own happiness.
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